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RE: Curls allowed? No, say Nigerian women, who give it to you straight

As the hype and fuss of the new year, and it’s accompanying resolutions, are dying down (if not already dead) there are a few resolutions that commonly pass the holiday season. Loosing weight and to find a partner. Feel free to add any you feel make it past the January mark.

I read the article by Monica Mark in Lagos for the Guardian last year. I was left several messages about the article and wasn’t particularly shocked by it’s contents to be honest. Were the readers of this article really shocked? Or just frustrated at such a backward mentality?

In this new year there may be some women who take the advice of Mr Abogo Ugwokeghbe, and 18 year old Esther – both quoted in the article. If the advice is taken on the grounds set by these two people some women may have more to worry about than not “catching” a rich husband.

Nigeria is not alone in their extravagant spending on hair. We do it here in the UK also. For any woman to spend one third of their average salary in any country is ludicrous and would partly explain why they would need a rich husband to support their outrageous spending habits.

As I have been told lately by several mothers – everything should be done in moderation.

The mentality of certain women in searching for a rich husband as a primary source of income may be considered more of an issue than the naturally curly state of their hair. Sure, no one wants to “suffer”. I would go as far as to mention a philosophy mentioned by a few male friend’s of mine this summer, men want a pretty woman and women want to be cared for. It may be seen as a somewhat fair trade. I can stretch my mind to accept this view point. I cannot, however, at this point in time stretch my mind to understand how in a country suffering from political unrest and an unbelievable amount of corruption that women think their hair is what will help them survive. At the rate international economies are going there won’t be many rich men out there to flick our hair at. In the meantime perhaps we should be preparing our minds and talents instead.

Thank you to Monica Mark for this insight into hair perceptions in Nigeria. You can read the original article here.


About Combing for Curls

Ghanaian-Nigerian Accra-based natural hair blogger and vlogger. Creator/curator of African culture and political content.


One thought on “RE: Curls allowed? No, say Nigerian women, who give it to you straight

  1. Thanks for posting this. Sadly the mentality that natural hair is ugly/unattractive is still prevalent amongst many Nigerians and Africans in general. I think it’s high time that we learn to embrace our own beauty, without the relaxers, chemical processors and extensions. Why is it that every other race can wear their own hair without judgement but not us? The anti-curly mentality really annoys me but I guess all us naturals can do is accept and embrace our own hair and hope that it will reflect on others.

    Posted by Victoria, My Curls | February 12, 2012, 9:43 PM

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